If you’re not a caregiver, you may need to learn what it’s like to be one. But if you are in the role of caregiver, then you probably understand how difficult it can be at times. Your loved one is getting older, which means they’re also likely dealing with health issues and other complications that come with age. And sometimes those things can put extra strain on your relationship with your loved ones—especially when they start asking for something that isn’t possible (like going home from memory care units).
In this post, we’ll talk about how to handle those conversations in a way that will benefit everyone involved—including yourself!
Call Family Members If Needed
If the person with dementia is asking to go home, it’s usually because they feel uncomfortable in their current living situation. They may not be able to express this in words, but if you’ve been around them long enough, you’ll know what they mean.
You can help ensure that your loved one is comfortable by asking them questions about what would make them happy and getting their input on decisions regarding their care. Family members can also assist with ensuring that the person’s needs are being met, for example, if they would like more time outside each day or an extra blanket during winter months.
Be honest when your loved one asks if they’re home, and you know that they aren’t. Don’t lie to them or say things like “yes, you’re right” or “you are at home.” Even if it’s just a little white lie, it can make them feel better at the moment but cause more confusion when reality sets in again.
You also don’t want to tell them they’re just visiting because this may need to be clarified even more when they realize their friends and family aren’t coming back after all! Remember that they aren’t trying to be difficult; dementia causes them to forget things, which means they may be confused about what’s happening right now and why it’s happening.
Focus On Comfort
When you loved one with dementia asks to go home, it’s natural to want to help them feel safe and comfortable. You might also be tempted to give in and take them home for a visit, especially if they’re refusing meals or medication. While these are all valid concerns, you must remember that your loved one’s current environment is the best place for them right now. To get better care at their memory care unit, they must stay where they are until their symptoms improve.
Don’t Fight Your Loved One’s Illusions
When a loved one with dementia asks to go home, it is important to understand that they may be mistaken. It is not uncommon for people with Alzheimer’s disease and other forms of dementia to experience hallucinations. These hallucinations may appear as voices, smells, or even physical sensations, such as feeling warm or cold when there is no reason for this feeling (i.e., the weather). Don’t fight your loved ones’ illusions; instead, accept their wishes and be thankful that they are happy despite their illness!
This can be difficult because it feels like you’re losing your mind when someone you love has dementia, but it’s important for everyone involved to remain focused on what is happening in front of you.
It’s important to remember that your loved one is not trying to make you feel bad by asking these questions. They are simply desperate for something they can connect with; in this case, home may be the only thing left that reminds them of who they once were. If your loved one asks this question again, talk about it positively.